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Wednesday, November 19, 2008

Degrading Pornography can be Unhealthy

I came across an article today that discussed whether or not pornography should be considered adultery. http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200810/adultery-porn

From what I gather, the main message of the article is that pornography is often used as a deterrence for other more harmful acts. In other words, the male counter part would be 'better off' watching pornography than actually having sex with someone in person. I can safely assume male here because only 3% of women watch pornography regularly compared to 80% of males that have at least watched some porn if not regularly. It also highlights that women should not be offended by their partners use of pornography because all men will watch it regardless.

I might be coined a feminist here, but I don't agree that watching porn is a harmless activity when a male is in a relationship unless his partner is not offended. These are my reasons, and I will begin by stating a quote by Tyron Edwards “Thoughts lead on to purpose, purpose leads on to actions, actions form habits, habits decide character, and character fixes our destiny”.

And in case you don't believe this, please take a look at this short article: http://www.flyingsolo.com.au/p269212782_How-positive-thoughts-cause-positive-actions.html.

It is about how positive thoughts lead to positive actions. It has been proven by psychologists that our thoughts "self talk" are very influential to the sole determiner in our actions.

So my beef with pornography is that it usually exploits women. By exploit and degrade I am talking about the pornography's main purpose is to humiliate the woman. Or in some way treat her as she has no choice in having sex, and must therefore submit to the men. I don't want to be in a relationship with a man who would watch non degrading porn, but I am particularly worried about the notion that watching a women be degraded is not only ok but should be accepted as normal. Non degrading porn is far less threatening on this point.

When males watch women become exploited and degraded it creates thoughts. These thoughts lead to actions. The actions expressed by the male are going to be a want to degrade a female. Now many people will say that watching porn doesn't necessarily leads to these actions. This is true, not all males that watch porn are going to exploit or degrade a woman, but with psychological research the chances of this want to degrade are high. Not to mention, it's not healthy for men to have thoughts of degrading other humans. Would it be healthy to have thoughts about murdering other people continuously? NO. So why is it considered ok to have thoughts about mistreating females?

I personally don't think its ok to promote or watch females being exploited. If i did, I would be a hypocrite on the same level that an animal rights endorser would watch dogs fight to the death.

Unfortunately, many of the women who are in pornography have been sexually abused previous in their life. Sadly, when a child's first sexual experience is abuse, that child is usually not turned on by anything but abuse. This destroys the child's chance for a healthy sexual relationship for many years to come. Worse yet, is that many children block the abuse out and have no idea why they are different.

People who have had sex offender treatment are said to have a sex addiction. An addiction to pornography is just as unhealthy as any sex addiction, and is very hard to break.

I also have a problem with the article eluding to monogamy as having too harsh of fidelity requirements. I don't think that being faithful to one person is all that hard, it does, however; require self restraint. No I'm not Christian, or religious for that matter. I find cheating to be a very disrespectful and hurtful thing to do to someone that you are in a relationship with, not because God says it's bad. Seriously, if you want to have sex with more than one partner, break up and find another one. Don't just go on and hurt the one you have!

So basically, I am not for pornography. I don't think it is a healthy outlet for sexual tension in a relationship. If the male has that much of an addiction, it may be completely unhealthy and has the possibility of leading to infidelity. This is because thoughts lead to actions. It's proven. This is how they fix people with low self esteem and it can be how you ruin your relationship.

9 comments:

Demented Chihuahua said...

On your stump again, huh babe? Haha, you forgot the whole argument about anybody wanting to watch the "Money shot" at the end of porn should probably be watching male porn to begin with...hehe

Crackgerbal said...

lol! i was keeping it semi-intellectual by leaving out the money shot ;)

Cheesepuck said...

Hmm guess I might be part of that 3% of women that watches porn, although I read it more than I watch it. I have to say most visual porn just makes me laugh, but there is definately a percentage of it that does make me uncomfortable because of the mistreatment of the woman(women) depicted. Fortunately Ross has pretty much the same reaction when we see one of those videos and so we don't watch it.

There is no argument that there is way too much porn on the internet, but at least it means there are plenty of options right? I don't think that males, at least of our generation with any sort of eithics, feel any different about the degredation of women in some porn.
The sex industry is a dirty, nasty industry anyway you look at it, playing on people's fetishes and on the performers need for money and their insurcurities. I think there are people in it that enjoy their work, weren't abused as children, and find it fun and interesting. They are probably not the majority, but some people are nyphos what can you say. Or you can just go the youPORN route, and watch normal couples going at it with the whole world watching.
As for the cheating aspect, I don't really think the two are connected, in that I'm sure there are many men who watch porn who don't cheat and probably some that don't which are unfaithful. If Ross wants to watch some chick have sex with a tennis racket, well I'm just glad it's not me. I don't think that he loves me any less or that he is going to start demeaning me.
Possibly it is unnecessary, but no more than eating a cheeseburger or taking a nap, so I have no problem with it.
The true money shot is when you get those chicks that can squirt, it's too bad more of us can't do that.

Crackgerbal said...

to: cheesepuck

Thanks for your comment you raised an interesting point...that it is often pointless to watch porn for many people.

I like that you have some insight on the subject since you yourself watch porn. I am glad to hear that you guys stay away from the more violent pornography...but since they still produce it, im sure many don't. Other wise they would make no money from the production and it would fall on the wayside.

Im glad that you mentioned there is a non violent porn sight where you can watch normal being having sex. This is, I believe, similar to European porn.

Thanks for the comment, I enjoyed hearing from you!

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Anonymous said...

So is watching porn more or less degrading than pointing a gun at bank tellers?

Is it sustainable?

Did you know your boyfriend is a registered sex offender?

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